What does it mean to be a man? In this memoir, Thomas Page McBee explores this question through the lens of two significant figures in his life: his abusive father and a mugger who, in a moment of mercy, spared him. As McBee stands on the brink of transitioning from female to male, he examines these flawed examples of manhood while forging his own identity. The narrative intertwines his personal experiences with universal themes of self-creation, risk, legacy, and forgiveness. Described as gripping and poetic, McBee's journey confronts childhood trauma and a life-altering mugging, revealing the resilience of his body and spirit. This memoir is not just about transition; it’s a profound exploration of love and self-discovery. McBee's story is both despairing and hopeful, showcasing the emergence of a fuller self. The writing is both emotional and exquisite, reflecting on vulnerability and the complexities of identity. This important work challenges conventional narratives of transition, embracing uncertainty as a fundamental aspect of life. McBee, a columnist and speaker on masculinity, shares his journey with openness and insight, inviting readers to witness his path toward self-possession and authenticity.
