William S. Pollack Libri

What real boys have to say: "A lot of people use words like 'psycho' or 'wacko' to refer to those feeling glum or contemplating suicide. These slang terms create further isolation in teens who already feel alone." —Alexander, 18, from a small town in the South. "A guy is supposed to be strong, tall, and fast, embodying the ideal athlete, while also being smart and nearly perfect." —Chandler, 14, from a suburb in the Northwest. "What I hate about this school is being picked on in the halls and just about everywhere else." —Cody, 14, from a suburb in New England. In this compelling follow-up, Dr. William Pollack delves into the experiences of boys aged 10 to 20, capturing their secret struggles and passions in their own words. Their candid voices reveal how outdated societal expectations compel them to hide feelings of isolation, depression, longing, love, and hope. We hear from boys and young men from diverse backgrounds, including survivors of the Columbine massacre, who share powerful stories about bullying, drugs, sports, school, parents, and relationships. Pollack also provides strategies for initiating conversations and practical templates for various situations. This eye-opening exploration is essential reading for both teenage boys and girls, offering invaluable insights for everyone in their lives.

With compassion and clarity, Richard Gartner shares insights from years of working with male survivors. Among this book's greatest strengths is the extensive use of examples from Dr. Gartner's clinical practice to illustrate problems and solutions on the path to healing. Beyond Betrayal offers support, encouragement, and useful skills to men in recovery.--Mike Lew, M.Ed., author of Victims No Longer and Leaping upon the Mountains""If you have been sexually abused, this book will give you information, hope, direction, and most importantly, the assurance that you are not alone. Dr. Gartner has written an accessible, compassionate book that clearly lays out the healing process for men who were hurt or abused as children. Whether you were abused by a mother, a camp counselor, a neighborhood boy, or a priest, Beyond Betrayal will give you the tools you need to reclaim your life and move on. If you're going to take one book with you on the healing journey, this should be the one.""--Laura Davis, coauthor of The Courage to Heal and author of The Courage to Heal Workbook""Compassionate, insightful, and hopeful, Beyond Betrayal shines a bright light. It is a must-read for anyone concerned.""--Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D., author of Silently Seduced""Beyond Betrayal cuts through the shame, confusion, misunderstanding, and fear that so often accompany the abuse of males and replaces them with clear information. I will begin to use it immediately with my patients and think that other clinicians will do so as well.""--Christine A. Courtois, Ph.D., author of Healing the Incest Wound and Recollections of Sexual Abuse""Beyond Betrayal offers men straightforward words of hope and a meaningful way to overcome the invisibility, stigma, and shame they have endured. Many men and their families will find this book a healing aid.""--Jack Drescher, M.D., author of Psychoanalytic Therapy and the Gay Man""Dr. Gartner writes in a manner any reader will find accessible. Not only does he understand the topic of males, sexual abuse, and recovery, but he can explain it to those who need to know.""--Dr. Mic Hunter, author of Abused Boys and editor of Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse: Treatment Innovations

In seiner jahrzehntelangen Forschungstätigkeit hat William Pollack festgestellt, dass viele Jungen, die nach außen hin ganz unauffällig wirken, innerlich verzweifelt, orientierungslos und einsam sind. Woran liegt das? Schlüssig und anhand vieler Beispiele zeigt der Autor, dass Jungen einer Vielzahl von widersprüchlichen und unvereinbaren gesellschaftlichen Erwartungen und Verhaltensmaßregeln ausgesetzt sind. Wie sollen sie unter solchen Voraussetzungen ein stabiles Selbstwertgefühl entwickeln? Wie definiert sich das Wesen von Jungen? Wie unterscheiden sie sich von Mädchen, worin sind sie ihnen ähnlich? Was sollen wir von ihnen erwarten und was für sie anstreben? Was geschieht, wenn Jungen mit Problemen wie Scheidung der Eltern, Depression oder Gewalt konfrontiert werden? Anhand dieser und vieler weiterer Fragen, zu denen sich auch betroffene Jungen selbst äußern, führt Pollack seinen Lesern vor Augen, was die spezifischen Probleme von Jungen sind, und wie wir ihnen helfen können, sich freier und selbstbestimmter zu entwickeln.